People often wonder what it’s like to be cheated on. It is a difficult subject to talk about and can make anyone feel vulnerable. This blog post will explore how being cheated on effects future relationships:
1. You have an increased potential of developing PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)
PTSD can develop as a result of witnessing or experiencing traumatizing events such as being cheated on. It is important to note that anyone would be prone to developing the condition if they were in your situation.
This is because when you are exposed to severe emotional stressors for long periods, it becomes routine, and the body develops this response since the mind knows what’s coming next – it prepares itself for danger, pain, isolation, etc. And once your brain realizes that people will always betray you in relationships, it takes refuge in fear and anxiety. The next time you have a relationship with someone, it will automatically be doubted and analyzed if that person is genuine or not. The brain does not differentiate between a loved one, stranger, or foe because to the brain, and it’s still an unknown entity.
2. You feel betrayed again and again
After experiencing emotional trauma every time, you try to establish another relationship, your fear of betrayal becomes stronger and stronger. This leads to self-doubt because of previous failures in relationships which result in increasing paranoia over time. Lying is considered normal by most people, so when they finally meet that “special” girl, she would eventually start lying to him since she feels the need to maintain her image. This ends up breaking his trust in people even further and creating a vicious cycle of disappointment, pain, and betrayal.
3. It’s harder to trust others
After being cheated on, you become more skeptical about your relationship with other people because they always let you down in the past. You begin to believe that human relationships are all based on superficial things such as money, family, or fame which is why you doubt every word that comes out of someone’s mouth. This brings up paranoia again and triggers your “fight or flight” response, thus increasing your heart rate and causing anxiety attacks when in social settings (overreacting).
4. People start seeing mental health issues after cheating
People who are prone to developing mental illnesses will get worse after experiencing a traumatic event. This is because the trauma was caused by external influences, translating into depression and anxiety, resulting in problems with sleeping, eating, and drastic mood swings. People who are not prone to disorders may also develop them since cheating opens up an entire world of pain that no one ever dreamed of – they will never be able to come back from it once it begins, so they once serious about saving their relationship.
5. You avoid having relationships altogether
People who were cheated on tend to shy away from conflict and generally from all forms of communication. They begin to realize how much work goes into every type of relationship and start feeling disgusted towards people who choose not to invest time for others or themselves. That’s why most people get into affairs – to mask the pain they feel inside and keep them distracted from their problems.
6. You have your friends’ safety in mind
When you were cheated on, begin thinking of ways to avoid getting hurt again, which is why you warn your close friends about the guy/girl who hurt you. If she doesn’t listen then, it’ll be more challenging for her to handle a relationship that eventually fails because she listened to someone else’s advice rather than doing what felt right on her end. In general, people who are loved by those around them always strive to maintain healthy relationships no matter how hard it gets – this leads me to my next point.
7. People you love get hurt when they choose to ignore your advice
If someone decides to stay in a relationship with somebody who cheated on their loved one or friends, then it’s bound to end badly at some point because the cheater always does it again to other people they care about – this is very common and normal. It hurts more when they realize how toxic their partner was after losing someone who genuinely cared for them. They begin treating everybody else like “cheap” options, which only adds insult to injury. You feel betrayed by her actions since she didn’t listen to your advice, but now has nobody left that can warn her before the next train wreck happens. This brings up anger and resentment towards her for not taking your advice, and then the cycle of pain continues.
8. You develop social anxiety
If you’re able to leave your house, then you’ll want to avoid going somewhere where she might be because that will only trigger painful memories of past events and remind you how badly people can treat each other – this is still a fresh wound, so it hurts too much go through it again. Since you don’t know anybody there, then you feel lost without anyone in your life that cares about what happens next. This is why some people choose to stay isolated from others except for one or two close friends whom they can confide in – it’s easier to get over a painful relationship when surrounded by those who hurt or betrayed you.
9. You find it hard to trust people again
People who were cheated on will start developing trust issues with everybody else in their lives because they don’t want this to ever happen again – they begin over-analyzing everything and believe that any girl/guy can turn on them at any time for no reason whatsoever. The sad thing is, the only way to stop future heartbreak is never to open up your heart again or give anyone a second chance – this makes you reclusive if not highly distant from your loved ones as well since the pain of losing someone else close to you outweighs the happiness gained during those times when all goes well. This leads me to my next topic.
10. You look for happiness elsewhere
People who have been cheated on begin looking for happiness in other places because they can’t find it at home with their loved ones anymore – this might result in them getting into an affair or becoming promiscuous when single, but that’s a different topic entirely. People cheat on their partners either to feel something back again or avoid feeling anything at all – both methods are short-lived and unsatisfactory without the right therapy.
11. Fear of Abandonment
Now that you know the feeling of being left by someone you love, it’s just natural to be wary of future relationships. You worry that they will simply go and cannot trust them anymore. How can you trust your partner if they did this to you?
12. Love for Time Alone
Being cheated on makes you realize how much time both of you spend together and reinforces your need for time alone. If your partner is always there like glue, when do you get some time alone? Being cheated on makes one want to spend quality time with oneself as a form of self-recovery from the trauma and find out who exactly one is to give the best version of oneself in any relationship.
13. Need for Support System
Being cheated on teaches you to rely on friends and family members the way we did when we were little, as your partner was supposed to be the one who supports you emotionally, physically, and mentally. You then need a new support system to get through this rough time with interested and compassionate people about what happened to you.
14. Fear of Intimacy
The cheat is not just someone who had sex with someone else. At the same time, they were committed to someone else but also an intimate betrayal since it involves a connection that should only exist between two people in love or at least attracted towards each other, such as having their secrets that no one else knows except the person.
15. Hard to differentiate
It is hard for you to differentiate between true love and infatuation or obsession due to an observed pattern: Before cheating, your partner seemed very loving, attentive, and caring towards you; afterward, they were more indifferent and distant – which caused the hurt that drove them to seek out someone else (often without regard for what this does to you).
16. Very skeptical
You are very skeptical about giving someone else another chance after being cheated on, especially when in a new relationship (as opposed to patterns with ex-partners), as such behavior can give you the feeling that they are still carrying feelings for their former partner.
17. Don’t care anymore
For a brief moment, you don’t care anymore; so you start to date, only to suffer yet another betrayal later on – and at this point, it feels like one big joke (referring in particular to flings/casual sex)
With these insights, you can now better understand how being cheated on affects future relationships. It’s important to note that this is not an easy topic to talk about, and it may be difficult for the person who was cheated on to open up about their experience. Remember that no one deserves to be mistreated by someone they love, so please don’t tolerate it in your own life either! If you are struggling with your relationship or need some advice, many resources are available, such as counseling services, online forums, and other support groups.