Most guys aren’t always open about their feelings. Some guys can’t talk about how they feel out of fear. Others try to hide their feelings because they feel like they are less than a man when they talk about how they are feeling. If you have strong feelings for a guy like this, it can be impossible to know how they are feeling. These guys won’t come out and tell you how they are feeling because they can’t. If you are shy, it can be challenging to find out how they are feeling. You can either sit around waiting for him to make his move, or you can do what you can to figure it out for yourself. Fortunately, in this day in age, you have the technology available so that you don’t have to ask the question face-to-face.
Why Is Texting a Great Way To Get Answers?
More and more people today communicate through text. There are many people who have given up talking on the phone altogether, and they only communicate with friends and family via text.
Texting is great because you can do other things while you are having a conversation. You can watch TV and read a book while communicating without worrying that you are ignoring the other person. When a text comes in, you can respond and then continue with what you were doing.
Texting is also great if you are uncomfortable about the conversation, such as asking a person how they feel without making it uncomfortable for either of you.
How To Ask a Guy How He Feels About You Over Text
If you feel like your crush likes you, but they don’t come right out and say it, it is up to you to find out. The longer you let things go without finding out how he feels, the higher the chance that he will meet someone else and move on, and you will have lost your chance.
You could always come right out and ask him if he’s into you, but it might not be the best idea. If you are friends, the last thing you want is to make things awkward between the two of you if his answer is no. There are a few steps to finding out if a guy is into you, and you can do it all through text.
Step 1: Ask What He’s Been Up To Lately
The first thing you want to do is talk about what he has been doing over the last few days. This will let you know if he has been hanging out with another girl. If this is the case, you might already have the answer to your question. If he does say that he’s been hanging out with another girl, ask him if he’s into her and if they are dating. This will let you know once and for all if there is another girl in his life.
Step 2: Ask About His Most Recent Relationship and Breakup
The next question you should ask is when his last relationship was. You should also find out why it ended. If he tells you that it was a recent bad breakup and she cheated on him, or she abused him, this might not be the best time to ask him how he feels about you. Most people aren’t ready to jump into a new relationship right away. If this happens, it might be best to be a listening ear and a shoulder he can cry on for a while. If you come out and ask him how he feels before he is ready to date again, it could create an awkward situation that can come in between you, and you will lose your shot.
Step 3: Ask Him If He’s Looking For a Relationship
Before you come out and ask a guy how he feels about you, find out how he feels about starting a relationship. If he says that he is just looking to have fun, it is up to you what to do next. You can keep pursuing him in hopes that he will realize that you are relationship material, or you can cut your losses.
Step 4: “Do You Ever Think About Me?”
This is a loaded question, and you shouldn’t ask it unless you are ready to hear the answer. This question can go one of a few ways, and it is best to read between the lines, so you know what he is trying to say. If you are in the middle of a multiple-text conversation and there is a long pause after asking this question, it isn’t a good sign. He might not know how to answer without hurting your feelings, and he is figuring out how to let you down easily.
If he answers right back and asks what you mean or why you want to know, it isn’t a good sign, but all hope is not lost. He could just be clueless regarding your feelings and really needs you to clarify what you mean. He could also be asking you this question because he just doesn’t want to come right out and answer your question because he feels uncomfortable.
The best-case scenario would be him telling you that he does think about you. If he says this, you can feel more comfortable coming out and asking the question that has been on your mind the whole time.
Step 5: “How Do You Feel About Me?”
Now it is time to put your cards on the table and ask him to do the same. You need to come right out and ask him how he feels about you. If you are worried that he won’t understand the question or that he will try to dance around the question, there are other ways to ask. You can ask if he thinks about you as more than a friend. You can also ask him if he could ever picture the two of you dating.
If he isn’t into your the way that you had hoped, don’t be surprised or hurt if the two of you don’t communicate as much as you once did. If you are interested in continuing your friendship, make sure you let him know right away. Let him know that you don’t want things to be awkward. You can even play it off like it isn’t a big deal.
Step 6: Ask Him Out
If you are lucky and your crush tells you that he is into you, you may as well go all the way and ask him on a date. If he admits that he is into you, this is the next logical step. This will the easiest question to ask of the whole conversation. You already know that he likes you, so the next logical step would be to ask him on a date. If you are lucky and things go well, you will be an official couple after a few dates.
How To Move Past a Bad Outcome
If you don’t get the answer you are hoping for, there are a few things that you can do to get past it. The way you go about things depends on whether you want to continue the friendship. If you do, there are a few ways that you can both move past the awkwardness and continue your relationship as friends.
- Let things cool down: After being let down, you should give it a few days before you text him again. It is best to give you both some time to move past the situation.
- Act causal: When you do finally text him, do your best to act natural. If you are the same person you were before you asked the questions, you will show him that you didn’t take it too hard, and he doesn’t have to feel awkward about continuing as friends.
- Talk about other guys: A great way to let him know that you are fine with him not wanting more than a friendship is to mention another guy in conversation. You don’t need to create a fake boyfriend, but you can talk about the cute guy you met at the gym. This will show him that there are no hard feelings and you have already moved on.
Asking a guy how he feels about you isn’t always easy. Sure, you want to know if he likes you, but you might not be prepared if the answer is not something you want to hear. Asking him how he feels isn’t something you can just blurt out. It is best to get some answers to a few questions first to determine if you should ask the question at all.
If the answers to the first few questions are positive, it is a good sign that you have a chance. If he’s not ready to be in a relationship or he recently got out of a bad one, it is best to wait to ask how he feels about you. Instead, remind him that you are there for him. If he starts opening up to you about his feelings, it will only strengthen your bond.