Gifting man sex before a relationship is fully established has for long been seen as a bad idea. And true to the word, if you are chasing a relationship with a guy, then you might have missed a step. In most cases, getting into a woman’s pants signifies the climax of male-female interaction. Hence some men might go MIA after the sex escapade. Nevertheless, you wish to safeguard only one thing at such times-your dignity. The choice for a man to give you the respect you deserve after sleeping with you in most cases is determined by your actions after the whole encounter. Let’s look at some tips on how to get a guy to respect you after sleeping with him.
#1- Be Casual After the Sex Encounter
There is life after the sex escapade, especially after some good smash. If you have heard of the word casual relationships, then you have it right! In most cases, you will ram into one after a sex escapade with a man. The basic definition of a casual relationship is one that lacks expectations of monogamy or long-term commitments.
Being casual comes with some basic rules with the common rule, in this case, is less investment of emotions and less involvement. Don’t break this code-else you will be on the man’s list of disrespected people. Trust the process and if things work for you, the guy will not find t hard to pursue you. If he is uninterested, well, you might have a friend or just an acquaintance who respects you.
#2- Do Not Nag Him with Multiple Unnecessary Calls/ Texts
With the guy meeting your expectations in bed by far, many women employ little or no of their conscience when interacting with the guy. The reason being they can’t get him off their mind. Probably, they want more of that junk of meat! Well, not bad but hi, how do you approach the guy?
If you think the tons of calls and texts of care will make the guy consider you, then you might be wrong. Men are complicated, especially after having some random sex with a girl they are not sure about. Probably, he has a woman at home, and doing these calls will just have him boot you off. When he doesn’t pick up or respond then finally make up for his mistakes, quarrel not him over his doings. Being a drama queen will just have the guy disrespect and disregard you.
#3- Avoid Moving Fast
I know you cannot let your mind alone think of losing this guy. Handsome, masculine, great in bed, and nice personality- name them all! Let this not trick you into chasing the guy asking him about the status of your interaction right after sex or any time in the near future. Let nature take its course allowing it to spell out things for the two of you.
While some people might advise you to go get him so bad, watch out- men are quite different. In most cases, men will chicken out after sleeping with you. The reason being- he is afraid of commitments and all that relationship tie around one woman. So give him time to assess his personal situation on whether he really needs to be in a relationship or not.
#4- Give Him Space
Women don’t get to understand that a man’s free time is not to be planned for. Don’t fix meet-ups with a man since it’s his leisure time. Men are social beings and need to interact with the external world. Personal space is also essential for personal development and reflection too.
Failure to give a man space reflects as added pressure to the man something that might not be welcome to him at any cost. Be mature enough to allow the man to have his space where he can be himself and make independent decisions. Otherwise, he might end up disrespecting you out of your own doings.
#5- Avoid Being Overly Attached
According to Bruce Wilder, a psychologist, the attachment theory explains why human beings behave like they do when interacting with people they treasure. He goes ahead to add that this can be comforting especially for people with anxious attachments which imply that they feel emotionally attached to their mates as a result of struggling for feeling secure.
While this might be the case, a man you just slept with won’t understand it. To him, this is exhausting and in your case so independent of you. Embrace being independent understanding that there is a difference between love and attachment. The attachment will only make you reliant on someone, an action that might hurt you emotionally when this person is not available even if he disrespects you not. Put it in your mind that you existed before this handsome man came in into your life. And either he is present or not, your life still moves on. Be a stoic in this, if not for a lifetime!
#6- Don’t Give Him the ‘Cookie’ Easily
Probably the biggest mistake you will wish to make is having a man disrespect for being quite easy with your portion of ‘love.’ Women, get this loud and clear! Never use your body as collateral at any cost to have favor from a man. You don’t wish to have the man speak ill of you saying how easy it was having you in his bed or probably hopping into your room at midnight drunk just to have sex with you.
The first time can be a mistake, but never will the second be a mistake by whatever means. Have total control over your feelings and tame your sexual urge mentally when it comes to this man. Even when he begs you for sex be quick not to offer him the cookie since he might use your validation against you. This is a great tip to follow especially when you wish to have a relationship with this guy. Cheap sex advances might have him think of you as a whore!
#7- Allow the Man Chase You
Instinctively, men were born to chase women with women being the judge on whether to consider men or not. Well, society has changed a bit and we can see the opposite happen. It is not entirely wrong but hi! Meet a man who wished his masculinity to rule and you might have it all wrong. Chasing a woman is like having gender roles changed something that looks quite messy.
In fact, chasing a man will only prove how desperate you can be. At such times, men can use you then dump you since they know it’s all on you that you made the move pressuring them to be with you. Respect yourself and be the woman you should be. Set your standards and let the man work hard to chase you if the sex was good for him. Probably, he might reward you with a relationship with the woman he sees in you!
#8- Focus on Yourself
Nothing is as sexy to a man as a woman who minds who she is and her personal level of achievements. In fact, this commands respect naturally and even makes men wish to raise their bar not to be outshone by such women. Hence work on your standards!
Focus on you, your career, your business, and your looks too. Probably, this is what they term to be beauty and brains! Notably, this is an act of reverse psychology against the man who works so perfectly. Don’t be surprised if he wishes to make you the queen of his life. Men dream of such women who can be submissive to them afterward in their love life!
#9- Show Him You Don’t Need Him
Let’s get this clear! There is a thick difference between the words ‘need’ and ‘want’. When you need something it means that you can literally live not without it. On the other hand, wanting something is quite different having it mean that if that thing is not available, you still will make it.
A mistake that a woman could earn her disrespect is having her show a man that she needs him. It translates to the man that the woman is barely independent something that many men will appreciate not. Therefore, refrain from needing him. In the worst case, show that you want him through compliments to boost his ego. You might also wish to refrain from telling the man that you want him directly. Let him do what men are supposed to do-chase women!
Having sex with a man when he is yet to commit to you is quite a trap for your emotions. It also leaves you on verge of calculative interactions to avoid disrespect from the man. While we would avoid it all cost, we are human beings and can still make that mistake intentionally or unconsciously. With the above tips, you already know how to behave or interact with the man to ensure he still respects even after the sex escapade.