Is your girlfriend going through some issues weighing her down, and you cannot be there for her physically? Well, you don’t only necessarily need to cheer up your girlfriend when around since the phone can also do wonders in helping her feel better. When women are sad, they need love, affection, and to hear someone cares for them. It may not solve the issue she is going through, but your words through text will make her feel better.
Here are tips on how to make your girlfriend happy when she’s sad through text
This is a tip to use if you are far from your girlfriend; let’s say you work in a different town or have travelled if you notice that your girl has updated her social media that she is not feeling well or is going through some challenges. You should be the first person to reach out to her. Let her know that you care for her and you are always ready to help her where you can.
Reaching out even from a distance helps your woman feel valued, and she will automatically know that she can always count on you whenever she has a problem. Besides that, talking to you even though the text about her problem will help ease her worries/ sadness.
Listen to her
Sometimes when going through problems, we need someone to rant to about the problem to ease the stress and pain. You are not there physically to comfort her or help her feel better, and the only means of communication you have is through texting. So, allow her to pour herself out and let her express her feelings without you interrupting her messaging.
Allowing her to express herself helps you understand better what she is going through, and from there, you will be able to offer the right advice or help. Interrupting her texting may cause you not to read some of the important parts of the conversation, may lead to miscommunication, and you don’t need that. So, be a good listener and patient when texting to tell you about her problem/problems.
Be open when asking questions
You need to get all information from your girlfriend regarding what is bothering her or making her sad. Therefore, as you text back to ask what is happening to her, you need to ask her open questions. For example, begin with “what is causing you to be sad” or “what happened”? Once she tells you the reason; for example, it was caused by a person, ask her, “why did he/she do that to you”? In between your texts, you can also include open questions that begin with; how, when and so on.
Such questions create a platform for more openness and freedom of expression. It shows you are curious about what she is going through, and in return, she will be interested in sharing with you because you show that you care about her feelings or what is happening to her.
Empathize with her
You should neither critic nor sympathize with her. Instead, you need to empathize with her situation and what she is going through. Criticizing your girlfriend will make her refrain from telling you details about the incidents and even regrets sharing her problem with you since you are not helping with the situation. If she is at fault, you need to bring it up so that she understands she is the one at fault.
On the other hand, sympathizing with her makes it feel like you feel sorry for what happened to her, and it may make her feel weak, or she does not know how to make the right judgments and decisions. It would be best if you understood that you get what she is going through as you offer the right solutions to the situations at hand.
One text communication will not be enough for your girlfriend to feel better. Text her once in a while to check on her, and see if she feels better after your first conversation. Let her know that you are thinking about her wellbeing, and she is in your thoughts regardless of the distance.
Understand and respect her decision
Women portray different reactions when faced with a problem. Some women would want you to offer a solution to the problem they face, while others may not want you interfering with her problems as they believe they can solve them independently. Well, you know your woman better, and from your conversations, you will be able to determine if she needs your input or not. The bottom line is, you are only there to make her feel better and forget about the sad moments.
So, you can’t afford to misunderstand or start offering her solutions that she did not ask for. For example, you can ask her, “do you need anything from me.” This is an open question that allows her to decide on whether she needs your help or not. For example, she can tell you,” yes, please, how do you think I should handle this matter”? or she will tell you, “no, never mind, I can handle it as I have a solution at hand already.”
Please don’t make it about you
This is her situation, her moment and not yours. So, don’t bring your problems or things that concern you to the conversations. For example, if you have had a problem or have something good going on until she asks you, don’t bring up the subjects in your conversation. Let her feel you are solely there for her, and she has all your time to pour out what she is going through. Even if you have had a bad day yourself, don’t start to tell her how you are also sad, as this may even make her feel worse.
Give her space
Although being consistent in texting to know how she is doing is crucial, you should also give her space when she needs it. She may not tell you that she needs space from you, but she will for sure show you. For example, she may take too long before texting or fail to text back. Don’t ask her why she is taking too long to text back; just let her be, and she will text you when she is ready.
You can also text her by saying,” hey, please text me when you are free to talk or when you are ready; I love you,” then close the messaging. Once she has come down, she will text you so you can continue with your conversations.
Cheer her with jokes
The main goal is to make your girlfriend feel better and forget about the problems she is going through. Therefore, you can’t afford to be all serious as it may not do her any good. So, throw some jokes maybe after you have spoken about the issue and she has come down. Tell her the jokes that she likes, and if the situation she is facing is not too serious, you can joke about it.
Send her inspirational quotes
We all dive into inspirational quotes when we are sad or undergoing some trying moments since they uplift us spiritually and mentally. Well, you can do the same to your sad girlfriend as a way of cheering her up. Send her some uplifting quotes related to her situations to help her forget about the problems and focus on them positively.
You cannot be negative or give your sad girlfriend negative energy when she is undergoing some sad moments. It would be best to show her that whatever she is going through is temporary and will end. So, be the one to encourage her and assure her that everything will be okay. As mentioned earlier, do not criticize her or make her feel worse by admitting that it is her fault. Let her know that everything will be okay sooner than she thinks.
Invite her for a special moment
Since you are chatting through text, you may need to invite your girlfriend for a dinner date out or at your place to take her mind away from the worrying situations. So, if you don’t live far from where she is, tell her to come over to our place, and you will prepare her special delicacy. You can also invite her to her favorite restaurant or to a newly opened restaurant to try new foods. This will do magic in cheering her up.
These are some tips that you can use to make your girlfriend happy when she is sad through a text. Your girlfriend should know that you are always thinking about her and you are ready to help her whenever she needs you. So, if you notice she is not acting the same or has posted that she is sad, cheer her up through texting before you meet each other.