There are instances when women may feel that their partners are losing interest or growing distant in many relationships. If you notice any of these signs, you may be left wondering if it is actually going on or if your insecurities and fears are driving you to such thoughts. The instance mentioned above may push you to overthink your relationship and feel uneasy for fear of the unknown. This reflection will give a thorough and detailed overview of some of the indicators that he could be losing you and give a few tips on what you can do.
How can you tell if he is losing interest in the relationship?
When he does not respond on the phone as he used to do
If it comes to your attention that he does not frequently respond to your text messages or does not talk to you for a good deal of time like he did before, then it is a cause for alarm. Furthermore, if you feel that he does not anticipate chatting with you but finds time to contact other people, it may imply that he is avoiding being around you always. However, it is important to note that this can be a natural occurrence since the relationship is a bit seasoned.
If he starts making excuses
he used to be there for you to the extent of reserving time from work and meetings. But of late, he has developed a habit of making excuses about urgent meetings at the place of work and tight deadlines whenever you want to spend some time together. Additionally, he could be dodging making plans with you or making time for you. All these could be signs of fading interest.
When he no longer asks questions
Questions from your partner help them know and understand you better-how your day at work has been, how you are doing with your friends or family, or how you are handling a certain issue. When he ceases asking you questions, it may be an indicator that he is disinterested in checking up on you and would want to keep to himself.
When he turns defensive and rude
When you were falling in love, you knew a caring and sweet man. He could share even the least of his information with you. However, he has now turned cold and cruel. When you reach out to get the details of a matter, he responds by being angry and defensive. Furthermore, he winds up making jeering comments or disgusting jokes to dodge your questions. These are signs that he is disinterested in engaging with you.
When he starts picking up fights with you
When you two spend time together, he starts to grumble about petty things; he finds fault with the least of issues or makes you sad. He makes things difficult for you by avoiding small things like settling bills, scheduling a meeting with your family, or taking out the garbage. He also starts off discussions or brings up topics that spark disputes or tension.
When he does not take note of anything about you
He used to notice every new thing in you, whether a new piece of clothing, a hair retouch, or a new dish you prepared. He made efforts to do little things to make you feel appreciated, like offering you his jacket when it is cold or cheering you up when you are low. However, those small indications of affection have faded away. Try detecting whether he is held up or there is something more to it.
When he ceases planning for dates
It was all thrilling experiences and romantic treats, such as plans for dinner, drinks, or movies, when you were in love. If he starts to cancel or procrastinate these plans for any verifiable reason persistently, then it might be a pointer that he is drifting away from you.
When he starts being vague
This behavior is an addition to the above-discussed matter. You may notice that your partner has abruptly become undecided and vague for some time. Further, you may find it difficult to understand his plans and intentions. He may be making plans with colleagues, friends, and family but not you, which may be an indicator of him avoiding you or something else going on behind your back.
When he stops discussing plans
It could be a red flag if he no longer discusses his future with you or stops involving you in decisions regarding his future or settling down. He may even be making the relationship public or official. You may start noticing him making statements that suggest he is looking for something more serious or indicate that people close to him are not certain about the relationship.
When he makes no effort
If he no longer bothers about his personality or looks, does not seem to care about his conduct, or has stopped trying to be romantic, he is probably becoming disinterested. You may notice that he has stopped making efforts to impress you, being romantic, and reaching out to know what is going on in your life.
When physical intimacy is all he has to offer
All you can do when you are spending some time together is having sex. There are several ways in which such a situation can be manifested. Perhaps you do not meet often, but whenever you do, he pressurizes you to have sex. When there is too much physical intimacy, he is looking for nothing more than sex. Maybe he is trying to use sex to prevent anything serious from happening, such as potential emotional conversations.
He no longer prioritizes you
When he stops considering you anymore, it may be a sign that you are not among his priorities. He prioritizes his plans and time rather than trying to adjust and fit you in his plans. This is a sign that he does no longer take an interest in involving you.
When he starts flirting with other women
A little fun and occasional flirting keep things exciting. However, if your boyfriend makes it a habit to flirt with other women in your presence, it may be an implication that he does not value your relationship anymore. This may be his way of making you mad intentionally, or he is preparing to make other plans for his love life.
When he ceases supporting you
He no longer takes an interest in your vision, needs, or aspirations. He has stopped supporting you in making vital decisions both at personal and professional levels. Further, you may start feeling that you can no longer count on him or trust him to plan your goals or celebrate your achievements.
Why could he be losing interest in you?
Men do not just lose interest. There are drivers that push them to lose interest which could be any of these below
• Something abnormal could have happened
• He was initially really not interested
• You chased him
• He could be getting better treatment elsewhere
• There could have been something weird about physical intimacy
• He could have forgotten how interesting you were
• Your attachment styles are not compatible
• Your first date turned out not to be the best
• He could have been a player
What can you do when you think that he is starting to lose interest in you?
When he starts losing interest in you, the first thing you may badly want to do is ask a bunch of questions like what could not be going right. However, this is probably the worst mistake you could do. If you wish to get back his attention after you feel him drifting away, it is best advisable that you reflect his actions. This means that if he seems to be in need of space, give him all the space you can afford him.
Focus on yourself
While giving him some space, it is also important to focus on yourself. Take some time to work on your esteem and peace of mind.
Avoid talking about the relationship
After eroded interest, you may want to sit and have a conversation with him about all that is happening. However, this is not the time. He could be having his own valid reasons, and if you reach out to him too soon, you could be pushing him away even further.
The fact that you should take some time before talking about it does not mean that you should stay silent forever. If you think it is becoming too long without getting his attention, it is now time to speak up. Therefore, if you decide to speak up, be honest with whatever you say to him.
When your boyfriend loses interest in you, there is never so much that you can do about it. It could be that you were never destined to be. The article above has given a thorough overview of signs that he could be losing interest in you as well as some of the things that you could do in the event that he starts seeming to be pulling away from you. However, never take withdrawn attention too personally. Remember that people are raised and think differently, which implicates that they have varying attachment patterns. All the best in your relationship and good luck!
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