Communication is the primary reason we interact with people despite different ethnicities, languages, traditions, and beliefs. Communication carries a lot of information which can either be in the form of verbal and non-verbal cues. Hence, a human can freely talk to each to pass information and express their emotions, opinion, imagination, observation, idea, and thoughts.

However, in a relationship, communication is the conduit that connects two people emotionally and mentally. Relationships do have inevitable ups and downs. The only way to get through the challenges is through maintaining a good communication skills and understanding between the persons involved. But the question is, how will you know that your relationship is suffering because of poor communication?

About 70% of relationship breakups stem from poor communication, which also takes the victim {s} a long time to realize that communication is the foundation of every relationship. This article will discuss some of the signs of poor communication in a relationship to help you quickly take early precautions and save your relationship. They include:

 

• They expect you to be a Psychic

Interpreting whatever goes on in someone’s mind is not even a task that you can entrust yourself with. Making decisions out of conclusion without proof from the person can make a petty issue escalate further into complications. However, some relationships do expect their partner to fill the gaps on whatever is bothering her. When you feel your partner most of the time wants you to clueless solve whatever is bothering her, you are definitely tossed into a frying pan. This is because you will make a wrong decision instead of teaming up to come up with an effective and healthy decision for your relationship. Coming up with a decision that favors each participant’s interests unravels more freedom in a relationship, thereby paving a way for a healthy relationship and future.

 

• Lack of connection

Connection in a relationship refers to the ability to automatically link with your partner emotionally, physically, and mentally. Sufficient emotional, physical, and mental connections will enhance sexual and communication satisfaction in a relationship. The guarantee of satisfaction is because when your partner feels purely connected to you, she can freely tell you her urge, thoughts, problems, and needs, hence you will know what works and do not work in the relationship. However, a lack of connection can quickly create an iceberg in a relationship. Therefore, it is your responsibility to ensure you find the right tune that will enhance the bond between you.

 

• Silence

Everyone knows that getting silent as a reply from your partner is a complete turn-off that can either be perceived as rude, guilt or secretive. Hence, it can hurt both the person involved, which skyrockets the issue leading to anger, distrust, and fight. When silence becomes the central issue in the relationship, no one will know and understand what is bothering or disinterests your partner about the relationship. If you find yourself fighting over silence from your partner, take a precaution earlier and work with your partner together towards breaking the ice before the relationship hits the wall. You may visit a relationship coach, psychologist, or work out naturally by yourself.

 

• Interruption

Nothing is irritating, like getting interrupted between conversations. Never interrupt someone when talking to you because it denies them the freedom to freely express themselves to you. Freedom helps your counterpart to release their emotions and share their thoughts, dreams, and expectations in a relationship. Hence, they feel valued, respected, secure, loved, and cared for. Interrupting your partner unleashes your partner’s insecurity and fears and emotional breakdown because they feel disrespected and unappreciated, which can deeply hurt your partner’s ego and emotions.

 

• Bringing up the past

Bringing up the past between the heated arguments with your partner can completely ruin the relationship and your day. If you find yourself discussing past mistakes, it is a sign that you guys move forward without healthily solving the problem. Living every next day without solving the past is a sign the communication between you and your partner is hitting the rocks. Leaving the past untouched can ferment a fierce war in a relationship because an individual will use it as a defensive mechanism and vengeance weapon to prove you wrong over the ongoing argument or avoid you. Hence, going silent while arguing without completely solving the present and the past will open up the old wounds that might not heal. If you want to live the rest of your days regretting about relationship, go to bed without solving the past.

 

• Being Secretive

Some people were naturally born reserved because it is in their genes. However, when you are a reserved person, you can easily be perceived as a secretive person when you don’t intend to. However, being secretive is different from having a reserved personality trait because a mysterious person behaves that way for an intended purpose. Conversely, a reserved person acts that way because it’s a natural inborn trait. So it is good to try to understand the kind of person you are involved with within a relationship to avoid misjudging them harshly.

When you find out that your partner is secretive while having a conversation, know that you guys have communication problems. Most of the time, mysterious people lack confidence, do not complete discussion, may lie and their conversation lacks connection. Behaving this way invites distrust and insecurity, emotional breakdown, argument, and fight in a relationship. Holding these feelings deep down is destructive in a relationship, so feel free to express your issues and general problems in your relationship for the best to come out of the ongoing relationship.

 

• Lies

A good motive is described along with integrity, loyalty, and honesty. These virtues are also the basis of every relationship to succeed. However, when you realize your partner frequently lies even out of an innocent conversation, it breaks the trust and loyalty in the relationship. Therefore, it provokes insecurity and fear in your partner, leading to a breakup. When a partner is realize dishonest, some people may opt to take vengeance by being unfaithful or secretive to you. Nothing is worse when vengeance is served as a cold dish.

Being real invites confidence, trust, and loyalty to your partner, which helps them to feel secure, appreciated, and wanted in a relationship. Besides, it makes them feel free and peaceful in a relationship rather than always being in suspense trying to figure out the puzzles that might stir conflict.

 

• Competition

Competition is a healthy factor for the growth and development of the business. However, inviting competition in a relationship can do more harm instead of improving it. Struggling to prove who is wrong or correct when a mistake happens or arguing about something in a relationship is not healthy. Competing in a relationship can make you lose the insight and the good memories that brought you guys together, making the ties lose their meaning. Therefore, everyone in a relationship should collaborate to find common ground that will help them solve their issue without being always powerful over the other person.

 

• Fear of facing you directly

When I was about eight years, it came to my observation that my parents were not on good terms after realizing that I was just a vessel of communication between them. Most of the time, my mum or dad will use me to relay information whenever they needed each other assistance because no one dared to face each other freely with respect. Deep down, it was hurting me because they released their emotions and bad energy on me to relaying the feedback.

Sometimes others may choose to text or chat over the phone, and that’s how they will end their day without having a direct conversation. The consequences of not facing your partner directly can invite many challenges that will pile even over the unresolved past issues. Therefore, when you realize only kids or texting are the basics of communication, it is high time to put ego aside and face your partner without fear for a better and healthy relationship.

 

• Forgetfulness

No matter how absorbed or too busy your partner is, he/she should not forget about the little things that make you people be together. Things like family, anniversaries, school fees, bills, and many more should not be forgotten because they are the fundamental factors contributing to a healthy relationship. However, if you frequently remind your partner about basic things, it is high time to sit down and discuss these issues before someone gets emotionally hurt. Besides, being forgetful can also make you feel your effort be meaningless or make her feel unwanted or unappreciated.

 

Talking to your partner in a relationship is not the complete blueprint to a successful relationship. You should pay attention to little things because they hold a special place in an individual heart that would make them feel wanted, appreciated, and special. Therefore, it is healthy and ethical if you value the little things they do, have a polite and welcoming tone when interacting with each other, listen to her keenly without interrupting, and always work together towards achieving peace in the relationship.