Being in a relationship is always hard work, you have to understand your partner and how they feel in order to love them in the right ways. Some people don’t like allowing others to understand how they feel, they reserve their feelings and keep them to themselves. Although there are plenty of women that do this, men are extremely bad at holding back feelings and emotions. Understanding the male mind in relationships can be extremely challenging. Here’s a list of some strong points that may help you or make you think more clearly on how to read your man’s mind.
Men Are Not As Comfortable Being Emotional
Where women are super comfortable expressing how they feel and showing how they feel, men do not feel the same way. In this world, men are made fun of growing up for “crying like a girl” when they express their sadness. Growing up getting ridiculed for expressing feelings tends to make it so men are reserved their whole life. Even if a man’s family didn’t raise him in this way, the world outside of his home had taught him that he is less manly if he shows his emotions or feelings. Being told that men aren’t sensitive has left men suppressing their emotions and feelings and often leaves them unsure of how they even feel. When men feel emotions they have a difficult time processing these feelings and expressing their emotions. This also makes it hard for the man you are in a relationship with to pick up on how you are feeling. Even though it is true that everybody is not the same because of their past and present, it’s proven that men show way less emotions than a woman because of society.
Men Need To Feel Successful
Men have a natural need to feel like they are successful and that they have won. Competitiveness is in a man’s nature, a man needs to feel like in a world full of men you have chosen him. He needs to essentially feel that he has won you. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you should flirt with other guys to keep your man, this just means that the man you are in a relationship with wants to realize that you could have any man but choose to be with him. Men love being successful in other aspects as well like competing for a promotion at work, or having that feeling that he has contributed something to the world.
Men Have Amazing Problem Solving Skills
Have you ever had a hard day and then vented to your man about it, but instead of being compassionate he starts giving you solutions or what you should’ve done in that situation? This is simply because men naturally have an amazing set of problem solving skills. Men don’t understand why you get upset with them for offering you a solution to your problem instead of being compassionate and showing sympathy because their minds don’t work the same way. When a man has a hard day or has a difficult time completing a task, getting sympathy or compassion may make him feel worse. He just wants to find a solution to his problem. So because men see no use in talking about problems, he may just seem like he is not compassionate towards you.
Men Are Scared
As mentioned above, men do not feel comfortable showing their emotions. If your man is pulling away but claims to not want to lose you, he may be battling his own emotions. It is scary to fall in love, this doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to commit to you, often it is because he is scared of the emotions and feelings that he is feeling towards you. Being vulnerable is not something that a man likes doing because men are just not taught to be sensitive.
In addition, when a man wants space or is distancing himself or ghosting you, it may mean that he just doesn’t want to hurt you. He doesn’t want to hurt you by telling you it’s just not working out, and he certainly doesn’t want to hear the hurt in your voice.It is hard to understand why he is pulling away and he probably isn’t going to tell you because it’s just not in his nature.
Men Do Not ‘Just Know’
Unless your man has the power to read your mind, he doesn’t ‘just know’ what your expectations are for him. You are going to have to talk to him and tell him exactly what you want and what you expect from him. Sometimes men don’t even pay attention to this talk though so do with that what you will, but that is probably a man that doesn’t really care for you. On the other hand, if a man tries to understand and engage in your wants and needs for him you have to give him a little credit for at least trying. Women pay better attention to behaviors and words, where men are just like a live in the moment type.
Men Are Not The Same
The man you are with is not the same as any other man in the world, just like you are not the same as any other woman in the world. People are built around the experiences they have had throughout their life, the way they were raised and generally the way they have been treated by other humans. Comparing your man to your friend’s man or your ex isn’t logical because they are not the same. Simply because nobody is the same in itself makes it extremely hard to understand a man’s mind, or anybody’s mind for that matter.
It’s great that females are becoming strong and independent, it’s also great that females are starting to realize they don’t need men in their life. Men need to feel masculine though, if they feel that their masculine energy is being compromised it might pause them or make them not want to move forward in the relationship. Men have a natural instinct to protect what is theirs. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to surrender your power, but maybe let your man think he’s protecting you once in a while.
Men Love Freedom
If your man is wanting space, it doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to disconnect from you. Although it might be a way for him to disconnect from you, but it might also be just him craving freedom. Just give your man some space, he might disconnect from you or he might come back. Even if he isn’t planning on coming back, you shouldn’t hold on to someone that doesn’t want to be in that relationship. Being clingy with him will not keep him around and may scare him away further.
Understanding the Male Mind in Relationships
Remember that it is impossible to ever fully understand anyone’s mind, male or female. Since every single person is different, there is no one way of thinking. Some men may be hopeless romantics while some men may be scared of commitment. It is hard to tell exactly what someone’s reasonings are, why they act the way they act, why they think the way they think or why they do the things they do. The only things we have in understanding the male mind are scientific facts that are known, like how men are natural protectors, how they have the need to feel masculine, how they naturally resort to solving problems or how they don’t like being tamed. If you’re here because you don’t understand your partner, start paying attention! The words he uses, the actions he takes, or even the way he breathes when he is around you. Men are complicated to understand but then again so are women. Talk to your man so that you’re both on the same page, and know what you want from each other.
Some people say that men are only happy in a relationship when it goes well all of the time, or when it’s mostly happy. Everybody likes things when they are drama free and happy all of the time, but that just isn’t reality. In reality, people get sad, confused, frustrated, insecure, jealous, and just plain mad. So yes, a man might like you to be happy but that doesn’t mean that you need to paste a fake smile on your face and let him continue hurting you with his words and actions.
It’s exhausting and confusing trying to understand someone because you want to go places with them, it even breaks people completely down to where they just become closed off themselves. Men and women sometimes don’t even realize they are hurting their partner by being so closed off. It can certainly be hard to even talk about the feelings you are having about your relationship because your partner just pushes them off like they have no meaning to them. You should always remember that whomever you are with is not who you need to be with, sometimes enough is enough.