Human beings are social beings with interactions playing a great role in our lives. A relationship is one of the notable interactions that brings quite some bliss especially when healthy. However, tables can overturn within a second when the relationship feels under attack. Unless you are quite a saint, it is quite normal to feel quite jealous over other women trying to make a move for your man either directly or indirectly. Most women want it all for themselves- if she owns it, don’t you dare edge closer. However, even when most women have defined their boundaries so clear, it is quite unfortunate that there is always a stubborn soul somewhere who wants your man so bad. And at times, you can blame them not since you may be dating this super-hot dude that every lady has a crush on. So, how do you respond to all these as a woman? Here are ten things on what to do when another woman is after your man.
#1- Waste No Time or Energy Confronting Her
You can rarely keep calm watching a woman want your man-it’s a big deal we all know it. However, did you know that not all battles are to be fought directly? When a woman is after your man, it is rare that you might need to invest time and energy worrying about it. Especially when you can trust your man with handling such situations, it’s not a big deal. After all, the attention these women need will be deprived of them and with no much yield seen from the interaction, they will always keep off naturally. Wasting too much time and/or energy worrying about this will only make you seem quite insecure. And if your man is a jerk, he could capitalize on your insecurities taking advantage of the situation since he knows you owe all the love to him. It’s an ego boost actually so to your man, avoid this.
#2- Try Understanding What is Happening
More often than not, women jump right into conclusions way too fast and we cannot blame them. After all, they are just acting at the impulse of jealousy and ownership of the man. However, a more diligent approach is trying to understand the situation. Ask yourself questions like: Why is she behaving like that? Is she just a close friend? Is she someone who went through an unhappy relationship? How does she relate to your man?
Well, don’t mind adding up tons of questions to satiate your curiosity. On the other edge, don’t overthink it since this can break you especially when asking questions and suggesting invalid answers. Nevertheless, you might find that you were or could have burst out at the woman for no logical reason. Not at all times, things are like they seem. Probably, this is just one person they share a life-changing experience with and can barely keep in the laughter and lengthy conversation. However, keep an eye since some women might use such a path and take your man away when it is rarely expected.
#3- Talk to Your Partner About It
If you feel this is too much to handle, one of the best solutions you might opt-in for is talking to your man. From your man, you can try to answer the many questions that linger in your mind or gain insider info about the woman to help you assess the situation. Call it spy mode and a chance to seek comfort and reassurance in the “dark” situation.
However, avoid being too much expressive about your disappointment. This might flip over to you for launching what might have felt to your man as an attack on his personal life. Avoid making him feel like he has no control over the situation. After all, you cannot treat him like a toddler in this situation.
#4- Accuse Not Your Partner
Let’s get this clear! Are you fighting against your man or the other woman? Well, this is where most of the women go wrong. You need not launch an attack against your man in this case. Women who do this are in most cases trying to channel their bitterness or frustrations to the wrong person and most especially at the wrong time.
Hence, you should avoid pointing a finger of blame at your man waiting for the situation to unfold in your eyes. Time heals, so put in patience in the whole situation. Channel not or displace not you’re your disappointments to your partner since he is not the real problem.
#5- Avoid Being Friends with the Woman
One of the nasty tricks women who want your man he’s trying to be friends with you. Don’t be surprised that some of the women who might be chasing your man might be your close ones. Usually, being your friend makes it even easier for these women to snatch that man away from you. But you could wonder how.
Well, it is in the friendship that all will be hidden from sight. Any time the woman is with the man, you might trust her actions around your man now that you are friends. Here, the imposter can conceal all her evil plans having your man in her arms all happening behind your back. Hence, normalize not trusting most of the women who try to befriend you after you note they have made a move on your man.
#6- Rejuvenate Your Conservations with Your Man
At times, we may all fall culprit to wanting something fresh and new in our lives. Not only does this apply to material things but also to our feelings. And the main cause for this is boredom. Yes, boredom! Don’t act like you are surprised by this since you might have felt it at a time and probably, all that aided you was a night that your man took you for a date.
In the same way, you might have failed on one duty, communication, which is the pillar of a strong relationship. As a result, some woman has been entertaining your man out there and now that he smiles back, she sees new lands ready for the taking. It is upon you to up your game and claims what is yours. Just a little effort to try to renew the spark in your relationship from simple aspects such as conversations might save you the relationship.
#7- Act by Speaking Up Calmly
When you can barely keep calm about it, the solution will be talking about it with the concerned party. In this case, you might need to speak to the woman telling her to keep her distance from your man. However, this doesn’t mean warn or go confronting the woman harshly. You don’t need a fight erupting or bitter exchange of words happening. The keyword here is speaking to the woman calmly.
While she might not welcome that easily, it is advisable to check on whether you can handle the situation when the woman gets violent. If you don’t have the ability to calm down when things get quite messy, then avoid doing this. However, your man should have told the woman that he already belongs to some woman. If she is your friend, it can be easier talking to her ensuring that you establish some tough boundaries for your interactions and consequently boundaries on how she interacts with your man.
#8- Seek Ways to Bring You Inner Peace
One way to handle situations that weigh you down is by doing nothing at all about it all especially when you have less or no stakes in it all. This is not your battle but a battle for your man to keep off these women. While he is your man and it affects you, you don’t have a direct influence on how the woman responds to your man. With this in mind, you can focus your energies on some other stuff in your life. After all, you won’t stop at life each moment a woman winks at your handsome guy!
You have to let go and allow yourself to seek things that bring peace to you. For example, surprise yourself by getting your to-do list done, going shopping for yourself, working out, and looking even sexier. Don’t be surprised to see your man chase you more than he can attend to the women seeking his attention.
#9- Show Your Man Love and Affection
Distract your man with what you should be giving him! Underrate not the power of spicing up you love when things get at such a point. It only takes some cool time filled with love and affection to remind your man that a bird at hand is worth two in the bush. He already has got you and if he gets it all, he will have zero reasons to listen to what the other woman has to offer leave alone give her space.
While you might burst with jealousy at hearing or sight of another woman wanting your man, all the jealousy is not worthwhile. You should not let it take advantage of you by feeding yourself endless worries. Seek to settle your mind with the above nine tips and be sure to grow the relationship even stronger than it might have been.