When you have been married a while, and the honeymoon phase is over, it is not uncommon for things to fizzle a bit. After several years of marriage, couples are busy with work, children, and household tasks. When this happens, love and romance can be put on the back burner. While this is common, it doesn’t mean that it is right. If you allow things to continue this way, it won’t be long before you feel like you are living with a stranger.
No matter how hectic your life becomes, you should try to do something at least once a week to make your husband feel special. Doing something special for your husband will show him that you love him, and it can save your marriage.
#1 Show Appreciation For the Things He Does
When things at home are hectic, it is easy to get caught up in all the things that need to be done while ignoring the things your husband has already done. If you want your husband to feel special and let him know that you appreciate the things he does, tell him. Even if he does something simple like vacuuming the living room or doing the dishes, be sure to thank him. Let him know that his helping out means a lot to you. Showing appreciation can go a long way in making your husband feel special.
#2 Dress Up For Him
When you are busy with work, kids, and other responsibilities, it is easy to neglect your appearance. If you want your husband to feel special once in a while, get dressed up for him on a typical day when it isn’t a special occasion. For example, if you and your husband have plans to do the grocery shopping, put on his favorite outfit, and do your hair and makeup. When he sees that you are trying to make an effort to look nice for him even though you are so busy, he will feel very loved and special.
#3 Send Him Sweet Or Sexy Texts During the Day
When you and your husband are both at work all day, your minds are on everything except each other. A great way to let your husband know that you are thinking about him even when you are busy is by sending a sweet or sexy text. This won’t take much time out of your day, and it will go a long way to making your husband feel special. Your texts don’t need to be long or complicated. Just a few words or some heart emojis will let him know that you are thinking of him during the day.
#4 Leave Little Love Letters Or Sticky Notes Around the House
You can rekindle your love and show your husband that he is special by leaving little love letters around the house. You can write a few lines and put the note in your husband’s pocket, briefcase, gym bag, or anywhere he will be surprised when he finds it. You can also put sticky notes declaring your love on the refrigerator, on the TV screen, or stick it to his phone. When your husband sees that you are taking the time to leave little notes around the house, he will see how much you love him, and it will make him feel special.
#5 Get Him Little Gifts
Nothing says, “You’re special,” more than a gift. You don’t need to go out and spend your whole paycheck or take a whole day out to find the perfect gift. If you are in a store, you can pick up his favorite candy bar or something small yet meaningful. When he sees that you were thinking of him while you were out shopping, it will make him feel special and appreciated.
#6 Plan Regular Date Nights
When your whole life is devoted to your career, your children, and your home, romance often takes a backseat. It may not seem like a problem at first because you are both so busy, but it can have an effect on your marriage. You should try to get a babysitter once or twice a month and have a nice night out. It will give you both a chance to get dressed up and do something together, without the kids. Having an occasional date night will remind you of how things were before the kids came and life became so hectic.
If finding a sitter is a problem, you can plan a date at home after the kids go to sleep. You can cook your husband’s favorite meal and eat by candlelight. After, you can snuggle up together on the couch and watch a movie together.
Whether you plan a date night out or in, your husband will see how much you love him.
#7 Take An Interest In His Hobbies
If your husband spends his free time at the gym, playing golf, or on any other hobby, it will be less time that you have to spend together. If you want your husband to feel special, take an interest in his hobbies. When he sees that you are willing to spend your free time doing something that he likes, he will see how precious your time together is to you, and it will make him feel special and loved.
#8 Cheer Him Up When He Needs It
If your husband comes home in a bad mood after a horrible day at work, it can be difficult to focus on him when you have so many other things to do. If you want him to feel special and loved, drop what you are doing and do your best to cheer him up. Let him tell you what happened, then do what you can to cheer him up. In some cases, just listening is enough. You can also pour him a glass of wine or his favorite drink to help take the edge off. When your husband sees that you were willing to drop everything to put his needs first, he will see how much you care.
#9 Make His Family, Your Family
If your husband’s family is very important to him, you should make them important to you as well. If you form a significant bond with your husband’s family, we will feel loved and cared for. You can plan dinners with your in-laws and nights out with his siblings. The effort that you put into bonding with his family will show him that his family means as much to you as it does to him.
#10 Plan a Surprise Vacation
Planning a surprise vacation for your husband is a great way to show him how special he is. You can make all the arrangements and surprise him with a break from his everyday life.
You don’t need to spend thousands of dollars are a trip out of the country. Just a weekend getaway within driving distance is all he needs. Planning a relaxing getaway will show him that you appreciate all the hard work he does for your family, and it will be a chance to put the spark back into your marriage.
#11 Compliment Him
If you want a simple way to make your husband feel special, a simple compliment goes a long way. When he gets dressed for work in the morning, tell him how handsome he looks. If he cooks dinner for the family, compliment his cooking. Compliments don’t require you to take time out of your life, and they are free and can make your husband feel special and loved.
#12 Make Him Feel Needed
Making your husband feel needed is a great way to make him feel special. If you are having an issue at work or a family problem, ask your husband for his input. This will show him that you value his opinion and you trust him. Asking your husband for help won’t make him feel burdened or annoyed. Instead, it will show him that he is the person you choose to turn to when there is a problem, and it will show him how much he really means to you. Also, most guys love to be the hero.
#13 Say, “I Love You”
This may seem too simple, but saying I love you regularly goes a long way. Everyone needs to hear these three little words, and they can remind your husband how you feel.
#14 Make Sacrifices
Making sacrifices for your husband will show him that you put his feelings above your own. For example, if your husband has errands to do after work but doesn’t have the time, you can sacrifice your time to take care of the errands for him. Making small sacrifices like this will show him that you have no problem putting his needs above your own when necessary.
All marriages require work if it is going to work. Communication, respect, trust, and love are essentials in a marriage, but you also need to show your husband how special he is to you. Showing your husband how much he means to you is simple. You can do just a few little things every day to show him that he and your marriage mean the world to him. If things have been tense lately, the tips above can make things better.