Dealing with a breakup is never easy, especially if it wasn’t your decision to break up. There are many reasons why relationships end.
• Time issues
• Stress issues
These are just a few of the reasons what couples break up. If your boyfriend tells you that he is ending things because he is too stressed to have a relationship, there are a few things you can do to determine if this the true cause. There are also things that you should do after the breakup based on what you have learned.
Is He Really Stressed?
The first thing you need to consider is if your boyfriend was truthful when he said that he ended things due to stress or if that was just what he wanted you to think. There are a few things you can do to get to the bottom of things.
• Consider his recent behavior: If your boyfriend has been distant lately or has been starting fights for no reason, stress may not be the real reason. If there is someone else, it is easier to tell you that he is ending things because of the current stressors in his life.
• Check his social media: Your boyfriend’s social media can tell you a lot about him that he may not want you to know. If you see that a woman is often commenting on his photos and posts, she could be the reason he is ending things. After checking his social media, check hers. If he is also posting on her photos and comments, there could be something going on. Also, if the comments seem to be flirty, he likely ended your relationship to start something with her.
• Consider the stressors in his life: If your boyfriend’s life is relatively simple and drama-free, stress may not be the real reason he ended things with you. If he is having trouble at work, fighting with family and friends, and seems to have a lot going on, stress could be why he is ending things. In his mind, ending the relationship will be one less thing to worry about so he can try to get his life back on track.
What To Do If Your Boyfriend Breaks Up With You Due To Stress
There are many things you can do if your boyfriend ended the relationship because he is overly stressed. If you suspect that stress is not the reason, it is best to walk away and don’t look back. If he used stress as an excuse for starting a relationship with someone else, your relationship is over, and you need to move on.
If you are sure that stress is why he ended things and you want him back, you can do things to help him and help yourself.
#1 Remain Friends
The best thing you can do for yourself and your boyfriend is to remain friends. He may not be ready to handle the stress of a relationship on top of everything else, but he may welcome your friendship. You can be there for him when he needs to talk and vent. As his friend, you can help him work through his problems, giving him what he needs. If you can help him work through the stressors in his life, he will be thankful and may be ready to start the relationship again.
#2 Remind His Often Of Your Support
If being friends who talk and see each other regularly isn’t what your boyfriend wants, you can still offer your support. If you check in regularly to see if he needs anything and to offer support to help with the stressors in your life, he will see that you really care about his feelings. This will leave the door open to start things up again when his life calms down a bit.
#3 Make Your Continuing Friendship Easy
The whole point of remaining friends is to help him work through his stress while still remaining in his life. If you mention the breakup and the pain it has caused you every time you talk, it will cause him even more stress. Try to keep your friendship fun and easy. You want to be the person he turns to when he is stressed and needs to feel better. Pushing him won’t help at all. If he feels too much pressure, he will cut you off completely, and your chance of reuniting will be nonexistent.
#4 Give Him Space
If your boyfriend ends your relationship due to stress, the last thing he wants is the added stress of dealing with your feelings after the breakup. If he starts to feel overwhelmed, he will get angry with you and might say things that he doesn’t mean. Also, when his life starts to calm down a bit, you won’t be the one he turns to after. He isn’t going to want to be around the person who caused him even more stress at a time that he was trying to put it behind him.
#5 Don’t Make Unfounded Accusations
When your boyfriend ends things, it is not uncommon to feel sad, angry, and even resentful. It is essential that you keep your feelings in check. If you start accusing your boyfriend of wanting someone else or already being with someone else without proof, it will make things worse. If you hope to get back together when his life calms down, it won’t happen if you fly off the handle and start making unfounded accusations. The best thing you can do is trust in what he says and do some investigating on your own. Making accusations will only push him further away.
#6 Be Patient
If you love your boyfriend and hope he will come back when things calm down, you need to be patient. You cannot expect his stress to end in just a few days or a few weeks. If you are serious about getting back together, you need to be patient. Don’t press the issue constantly and put a timeline on his mental health. If it is meant to be, it will happen in its own time.
#7 Don’t Move On
When your boyfriend breaks up with you, your first reaction may be to move on right away with someone else in hopes of making him jealous. This is the biggest mistake you can make. Trying to make someone jealous is never a good plan, and all it will do is push him away forever. If he sees that you have moved on quickly, he will look at you differently. He will assume that you never cared about him at all, which will add to his stress. If you find someone new, you will destroy any chance you had of getting back together when he gets better control over his life.
#8 Work On Yourself
If your boyfriend broke up with you to help relieve some stress in his life, it is the perfect opportunity to use this time to work on yourself. If you have wanted to get more fit, you can use this time to go to the gym. If you always wanted to start a hobby but never had time because you were in a serious relationship, this would be a great time to do that as well. The breakup is also a great time to get to know yourself as a person and not part of a couple. If your boyfriend’s life calms down and wants to get back together, he will see the changes you have made in yourself and will be impressed.
#9 Reconnect With Friends and Family
Many people who are in a serious relationship find themselves in a relationship bubble. This is when you spend most of your free time with your boyfriend, and friends and family are put on the back burner. If your boyfriend ends the relationship because he is too stressed to deal with it, this is the perfect time for you to reconnect with friends and family members you have been ignoring while in your relationship bubble. You are going to need these people in your life to give you support and advice. When you reconnect, you can spend time with these people, so you won’t have as much time to dwell on your ex.
#10 Accept When It Is Time To Move On
If months go by and nothing has changed, it might be time to move on. As much as you may not want to, you cannot waste your life waiting for something that might never happen. You can only be so patient with your ex, and eventually, you will need to accept that things are not changing, and it is time to move on with your life.
If your boyfriend shocks you by ending the relationship and claims it is stress, he might not be telling you the whole truth. However, if you have been watching your boyfriend struggle with the stressors in his life, he is likely being honest when he claims that stress is why he is ending things. If this is the case and you want him back, be patient. Try to be there for him as much as possible without making him feel smothered. If you follow the tips listed above, there is a chance that your boyfriend will come back as soon as things calm down.