When a relationship ends, and you aren’t entirely over the other person, it can be difficult. If you realize that you cannot move on and you want your ex back, you have to let them know. If things ended badly, it could be tricky to get them to give you another chance. The first thing that you have to do is make them start to miss you again. The best way to do this is through text.
Why Is Text The Best Option?
There are a few reasons why it is best to reach out to your ex through text initially. First, when you text someone, you have all the time in the world to think about what you are going to say. If your ex texts back, you will have time to come up with a satisfactory reply.
Also, you have no idea how your ex is going to feel about hearing from you. If they have moved on or haven’t healed from the breakup, a face-to-face conversation could quickly become awkward. Texting is the best way to put it all out there without making it feel like you are putting it all out there.
If you are going to use text messaging to get your ex back, you need to know what to say to make them miss you again. To achieve this goal, you should follow a few simple tips.
Tip 1: Do Some Research
Before you text your ex, you should know what they have been up to lately. If you haven’t kept in touch or heard much about them, you should use social media to find out what is going on in their life. If they have a significant other, you need to know this before you start texting. It is also a good idea to do some research on your competition. If they aren’t involved with anyone, it is still a good idea to know what they have been up to.
Tip 2: The Test Text
The first text you send will be the true test. If your ex doesn’t text you back, they failed the test and don’t deserve another text. You also have to make the first text intriguing. If you text a simple, “What’s up,” they won’t be intrigued. Instead, try to come up with something intriguing to leave them wondering. For example, if you text your ex telling them that you have spent your time apart working out, your ex will start to wonder what gym you are going to, what you look like right now, and who you are hanging out with at the gym.
If you send a text to pique your ex’s interest, they are sure to text back.
Tip 3: Don’t Overflow Their Inbox
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is overflowing your ex’s inbox if they don’t respond right away. You have no idea why they aren’t answering your text immediately. They could be away from their phone for some reason, or their phone could be dead. If you overflow their inbox, they might be annoyed when they finally do look at their phone. Also, blowing up someone’s phone only makes you desperate. You should send one text and wait for a response. If you don’t get one within a couple of days, try again. If you still hear nothing, take the hit and move on.
Tip 4: The Nostalgia Text
If your test text worked, it is time to step up your game to get your ex to miss you. The next text you should send is the nostalgia text. This is the text where you remind your ex of the good times that you had together. For example, you can text your ex telling them that you are at the location of your first date, and it is bringing back memories. This can spark a conversation about the first date and other fun times you shared. As the two of you reminisce about the good times you had together, your ex could start to miss the good old days and you.
Tip 5: It Made Me Smile
If things are going according to plan, the next text is the “it made me smile” text. This text will let your ex know that you miss them without you needing to come out and say it. This text is pretty simple. Think about something funny that happened when you were with your ex. Tell them that something happened that reminded you of that day, and it made you smile. This will let your ex know that you have fond feelings about your time together and that it still means a lot to you.
Tip 6: DON” T DRUNK TEXT
If your text conversations are going well, and the two of you are texting more frequently, you need to avoid making the biggest texting mistake, texting while drunk. Sure, you feel brave and ready to declare your true feelings, but texting when drunk is never a good idea. You can end up saying more than you wanted, which could actually set back the progress that you made. Drunk texting may not be as bad as drunk calling because they won’t hear your slurring, but it can still set your progress way back. If you want to keep things on track, stay away from your phone if you have been drinking too much.
Tip 7: Don’t Get Too Emotional
You are still at the point where you want your ex to think that you want to be friends again, so make sure you don’t get too emotional. If you start professing your love even though you haven’t had a face-to-face encounter in a while, it can scare your ex off. There is nothing with bringing up happy times in the past, but you still aren’t ready to declare your love. You shouldn’t discuss your true intentions until you finally see each other face-to-face.
Tip 8: The Hang Out Text
If things have been going well with your ex for the last week and your texts are always returned, you can take the next step of asking your ex to hang out. Make sure that you sound casual with the invite, and select a venue that was an important place during your relationship. If you can get your ex to a special place, old memories will come back, and they will start missing your relationship. If this happens, it is only a matter of time before you are back together.
Getting your ex to miss you over text is a sprint, not a marathon. It can take a week or longer to get things going your way, and you need to be patient. If you follow the tips listed above and you don’t try to go too fast, your ex will eventually realize that they miss you and the time you shared together.
The most important thing to remember is to take it slow. Your ex will be more open to communication if they think that you are checking in with them as a friend at first. If you can get your ex to miss you in the time between the first text and the first hang out, there is a good chance that you will be back together by the time your hang out date is over. As long as you are smart and patient, you have an excellent chance.