Human relationship is a very complex issue especially those involving a man and a woman. There is an absolute need for compromise, commitment as well as understanding. Because of the complex nature of the man and woman relationships, people are always scared of the fear of tomorrow which is the fear of the unknown. When you start a relationship with a guy, it is good to know where that takes you to and this will help you know how to follow up. Unfortunately, women are not in the position to determine where that relationship heads to. The man has to do and the woman has to decide whether to follow or to refuse. There is nothing wrong with the woman finding out where that relationship is heading to. It is not out of place to ask such a question. There are different ways of asking that question. Most people prefer to approach such a sensitive issue over the text. At some point in time, it will be inevitable to ask such a question. It is good to know the future. It is difficult to ask it, but you must do that at the right time.
The guide here is simply to assist you on how best to ask the question. It is good to know the state of mind you would be when you ask such a question. It is good that you ask that when you are having a formal text conversation with the person and you do not just ask that from the moon. There must be an ongoing conversation and perhaps the conversation might be about two of you. When the opportunity calls for such a question you have to ask that politely and patiently wait for the answer. Do not ask that question at the wrong time so that it does not confuse him. Ask him when he is in the correct frame of mind.
You can ask him in a text message where do you think you would be in the next five years. If he is of mature age, then he should be thinking of marriage in the next five years. Wait for the answer and see whether it would be related to getting married. If the answer you get is not related to that. Then it is a clear sign that he has no intention of getting married shortly. Since this is the case, having you as the future wife in the nearest future is not possible. This should guide you in deciding what to do with that relationship. If he is talking about getting married at that time, then it calls for more questions because chances are there that he may be interested in other women around and not you.
Ask him his feeling about long term relationship and particularly marriage
His response is also critical and you must pay attention and analyze what he says. If in the response that he sounds positive like LTR, then there is a future, but when he is saying something in another direction, then you should know that he has no interest in a long-term relationship and marriage in particular. You have to ask yourself what are you still doing with such a person. Trying to convince him to marry you is not even recommended because he will see you as a cheap somebody. You must take a wise decision and quit.
What are real plans for me? What do we have in common in the future?
If the previous conversation was in the direction of getting married, then there is nothing wrong with finding out where the current relationship will take you to. It can help you to know your future and know whether you are wasting your time or not. The right time to ask such a question is when you have dated for a long time and there is no indication of any proposal coming from him. If he is not ready for any commitment when you ask this kind of question. You should be bold enough to quit because there is nothing in stock for you.
Ask him what are you thinking of our relationship? Do you feel contented with it or are you looking for something better?
This is another way of asking the question. Ask him this question when you are convinced that he is sitting on the fence as far as marriage and long-term relationship are concerned. He will tell you his exact mind about you and him. It would equally let him know whether you are ready for such a relationship or whether you are not. It is a winning situation for both of you. His response to this kind of question will also help you determine the next line of action to take. Where you are one hundred percent convinced that there is nothing in it, then you can decide to quit for good.
Ask him whether he is looking for a commitment from you
This is also a good question and you can ask that when you are beginning that relationship. When he is asking for a date from you, try to find out what he expects from it. If it is certain that he is looking for a commitment or to become convinced that you are there for him, then it will assist you to know how to treat that relationship in the future. The answer he gives you determines what you are going to do next with him. Remember that you can always ask him this question through text messages. It will allow him to reflect on it without you being there. The response will be critical in determining the future step you take over that relationship.
Further, ask him when in his opinion do you think that somebody can get married?
It is a good way to start the discussion. You should know that the question can be generally confusing. His mind would be going about the best age he thinks about marriage generally. You must go on further with more questions and in this case, you have to bring that question to him. If you start from that general background it helps you to create the background for the future questions you will ask.
The answer he gives here is helpful. It may not be the reason to do away with him right now, but it assists you to find out how to he takes the idea about marriage and the right time he thinks that it is the best for one to become married.
What is your important priority in life?
If you ask this kind of question, it helps you understand how he takes marriage or whether it is part of his priority. The man’s response to this question is very important. It helps you to understand the most important priority. You can also know the importance he attaches to marriage. If he does not take marriage as a priority, it means that he is not ready for marriage now. It is left for you to determine whether you will wait or look elsewhere for a soothing relationship.
Ask him directly, what do you expect from the relationship we have?
As time goes on, and you think that there is nothing to show for the relationship that exists, then you have to ask him what do you think of that relationship. For example, if you have been in that relationship for six months, you can pose the question and wait for what his reactions would be. Some men are into a relationship for flings and fun. If you have such a man, you can find out by asking that question. If you are ready for such a relationship it is left for you to make your choice. The most important thing is that you have gotten the answer to the question you ask.
What do you want or you are looking for right now in this relationship?
Some men want a short time relationship while others are looking out for a relationship that lasts. Asking this kind of question will assist you in determining the type of relationship such a man wants from you and what you can do next. His reactions to this kind of question are also critical. If he has the interest to pursue in that relationship, he can tell you to give him time to think about it. Some can ask for three months to reflect on the question and less than that. This allows you to know how he thinks about the relationship and for you to know whether there is a future for you.
These are some of the questions you can ask a guy over a text about your stand in the ongoing relationship. When you are asking that question does not start it so soon as you start the relationship. As time goes on and you think that nothing is forthcoming then you can ask. Remember that before you ask for such a question that you must also be ready. What if the man says I am ready now, are you also ready?