What would you do if you find out your man is cheating on you? Probably this is one of the most challenging situations a woman has to deal with coming from a man she loves. Women love for real, and when the act of betrayal occurs from their partners, it can be pretty draining and discouraging. Some women may call quit the relationship when they learn about their partners cheating, but I believe that is not the only solution.
Some men cheat out of a moment of weakness, and such men can change from such behavior. I believe the best way to deal with a cheating spouse or partner is by making them feel guilty for doing that to you. So, if you find out your man is cheating on you, don’t revenge but instead make him feel guilty for hurting you.
Things to note
People have varying reactions when it comes to dealing with a cheating partner. Some women may have the heart to forgive, and others may opt to walk out of the relationship. So, once you learn that your partner is cheating on you, you need first of all to figure out if you will forgive him or not.
Here are some tips on how to make a cheating man feel guilty
- Make him miss you
The first tip to making the man feel he truly wronged you is by avoiding him to some extent. You need to limit the amount of time you give him, considering he did not value it, to begin with. A man will only realize he has wronged you if you tell and show it to him. So, if you used to have dinner dates maybe on weekly, cancel on him. Don’t reply to his messages instantly, and don’t give him as much time as before.
Not only does this help make your man feel guilty for wronging you, but it is a way to help you heal and figure out if you will move on past the cheating scandal or not.If the guy is not aware that you know about his cheating behaviors, this is the right time to tell him. Eventually, he will realize you are being cold towards him and ask what is wrong. So, if he asks you, lay down the issue and tell him you already know about his cheating.
- Avoid too many attachments.
If you are married, then you will see each other often at home. But still, avoid getting too attached to him. The goal is to make him realize he messed up a good relationship and know what he is missing. If you live in the same house, you can separate and sleep in separate rooms for a while or avoid getting intimate. If you work in the same office, don’t give him as much of your time.
Just go on with your work and pretend like he does not work there. If you work in the same department, focus on your work and treat him like your regular colleagues. These are effective ways to make the man realize how much you are hurt by his doing, and for sure, he will feel guilty for hurting you.
- Spend time with other people
Being in a relationship, especially a serious one, sometimes “kills” our social life. We only want to spend time with the person we love and build a relationship. So, if you had put down your social life for your man, then this is the time to reconnect with other people. No man wants to see a woman he loves or is in a relationship hanging out with other men. This will kill him sincerely, and regret losing you or letting things get to such a point.
You don’t necessarily need to start a new relationship or cheat on him as well. Just be around people who make you happy. Find a group of friends that makes you happy and brings out the lively part of you. Be genuinely happy and ensure your life goes on. With this, rest assured your man will for sure feel guilty for cheating on you as he feels like he is slowly losing you. Other than this, you need a support system that encourages you and helps you move on and forget about the cheating ordeal.
- Consider dating
This is a crucial tip for women who don’t want to continue the relationship with the guy. If you feel that you can never trust your man and don’t have any feelings for him, you can try out with other people. Some men cheat because they no longer love or feel attracted to their partners, although some may cheat out of a moment of weakness. So, if you feel like there are no genuine feelings between you and your man, there is no point in forcing things to workout.
Move on and find love somewhere as you may notice that the man you are currently dating is not your destined partner. However, take your time to get to know the new person before you take the relationship seriously. Make sure to cultivate a friendship first to avoid getting hurt. Seeing you with a man who treats you well and maybe better will break his heart into pieces.
- Talk to him about it.
I believe one way to healing and moving on from a hurtful event is by confronting it and expressing your feelings. He needs to know your feelings and how they affected your well-being. No man wants to see a woman who genuinely cares about him hurt and crying.
Knowing that his action hurt you sincerely will make him feel guilty and regret hurting you. Even if your relationship may be irreparable after the damage, rest assured this will haunt him for a very long time. No man wants to lose a virtual woman regardless.
- Get rid of his gift.
If the guy has given you flowers after cheating on you, toss them away or give them to someone else. Any gift that he gave you lately after or before cheating doesn’t keep them. This includes any pictures of the two of you or if you have a picture of him at your desk.
Keeping such things around will never help you heal as you will always look that them and remember what he did to you. Also, this is a massive hindrance to moving on with your life. Getting rid of his gifts will make him realize how hurt you are or not interested in him anymore. This, in return, makes him feel guilty for letting your relationship end up in such a situation.
- Work on you
If you were married and you had forgotten about yourself to focus on your marriage and family, this is the time to work on you. This includes working on physical, emotional, and spiritual beings. If you had gained some pounds after having your babies, hit the gym and lose some weight.
Work on your wardrobe as well to get clothes that flatter you. If you had dropped out of school, you can go back to school or enroll in another course that you want. If you no longer depend on him is enough to crush his ego and make him feel bad. So, work on that independence to better yourself.
- Have fun without him
If the man felt entitled and he was the reason you were happy and having fun, you need to prove him wrong. Some men misunderstand women who solely invest in relationships and women who are needy. So, if you were with him all the time going to clubs, dinner, or even at parks, don’t let the breakup slow your happy life. Go to a club, dance your heart out and have fun with other people as usual.
Post pictures of your fun moments on social media and let him know that you are still enjoying life fully even without him. Don’t let his actions lure you to depression or make you feel like you are not necessary. This makes one move on quickly, and the man will for sure feel bad.
- Let him see your strengths.
Showing your strengths to the man who cheated on you is a solid move to proving to him that he doesn’t break you but rather brought out the best part of you. So, do the things that you are good at doing. For example, if you love to dance, find a great dancing partner and dance in areas you know your man or ex-man will be.
Once he sees your talents and probably that he has never seen before, it will make him regret not focusing on you and getting to know you deeper and better.
Once you learn your man is cheating on you, you should never let the situation bring you down but rather build yourself up. If you want to forgive him well and good, but if you feel like you cannot forgive him for cheating on you, make sure to work on your well-being.
Focus on things and people that make you happy. Above all, take time to heal and forget about the hurt before you think of getting into a new relationship.